planning on proposing at the 2013 ny renn faire opening day your thougths

[crimsonbrewer]

hail and well met

im in the planning stages of proposing and want to do it a opening day at the 2013 ny renn faire. i want to get your thoughts about how im thinking of doing it. first i have been going to this faire for 25 years and my gf only go into it since she met me but she is fully entrenched in dressing up with me every fair we go to. now my thoughts are getting a banner made with the question and our picture in garb and have it hanging in the blue boar in the upper deck of the pub. this way what ever time we get there i can pop the question. what are your thoughts.....fyi i am planning on contacting the faire and see if they have other ideas as well as ask some of the actors that i know what there ideas are as well. i would like to avoid getting up on stage if i can because i get super nervous as it is and poping the question will be enough

[Dinobabe]

My best advice would be, or question there abouts, have you actually discussed getting married with her and is she in the same mindset?  Can't tell you how many well planned and thought out surprise proposes ended with a no because the "happy" couple had never actually discussed marriage!  After that, anything you do to make her feel special she will absolutely love.  Good luck! 

[crimsonbrewer]

i have not discussed it but i know she wants to since she already asked me before she had some surgery......

[Celtic Lady]

First off I want to say welcome and congratulation. Secondly, I agree with Dinobabe about being sure that she's in the same mindset. Personally (this is only my opinion) I like the romantic proposal. At a ren faire I think finding a beautiful, peaceful location where you can get down on your bended knee when you ask is the best place. If you get nervous, proposing in a pub with lots of people around may not be quite the place to do it.

[crimsonbrewer]

thanks for responding, as i said the answer is already known. i just wish to do it at what i call the happiest place on earch (Renn Faire)...lol.   so here are my options so far hanging a banner at either the blue boar pub or on the kissing bridge i have some friends that work the faire that will help out and get the banner hung before we enter. and when we enter i will head straight for the banner and when she sees it get ddown on bended knee and ask. hopefully i can get our friends and family to attend. hanging it at the pub means we can go there and she wont see it until we sit down to see one of the musical acts and i would try to get the act involved with singing a special tune for us

[Eddie]

If its a choice between pub and kissing bridge go with the bridge for the added romance factor.

[Dinobabe]

lol  Remember, proposing is the first big compromise of marriage!  Don't do what you think is cool, do what will be the most romantic.  In other words, whatever straight from a movie scene she wants. 

[Bob of the Lake]

Just my two cents but I would tend to agree with Eddie and Dinobabe. Go for romance. And at NYRF, the Kissing Bridge is WAY more romantic than the Blue Boar! 

[crimsonbrewer]

thanks for your responses i have not spoken to the fair yet so i dont know their answer but i was told by an actor at the fair it might be more received to be done at the boar, i think only because of the banner i want to hang, but i will push for the bridge because it is more romantic just might need to figure out the logistics of the banner. although the blue boar is a special place since i am in the brewery business and a homebrewer so beer is very much a part of our lives (and not just drinking it)......


and on a side note if any of you are going to the spring craft festival at the nassau colliseum march 9 please stop by the morning session and say hello but dont mention my plans as she will be there our beer is THE BREWERS COLLECTIVE  i will be glad to server you a beer.....

[Gauwyn of Bracknell]

lol  Remember, proposing is the first big compromise of marriage!  Don't do what you think is cool, do what will be the most romantic.  In other words, whatever straight from a movie scene she wants. 

from WIKI - define "compromise in marriage" - doing what SHE wants 


If the banner is important they may not let you do it at the bridge?? 

[Dinobabe]

lol  Remember, proposing is the first big compromise of marriage!  Don't do what you think is cool, do what will be the most romantic.  In other words, whatever straight from a movie scene she wants. 

from WIKI - define "compromise in marriage" - doing what SHE wants 


If the banner is important they may not let you do it at the bridge??

You know the phrase "what's mine is yours, what's yours is mine"?  My husband says "what's mine is hers, except for the dirty dishes".

[crimsonbrewer]

thanks all keep the comments coming, i do want to do it at the bridge but the banner might not work unless i do the photo bomb banner where we get on the bridge for a photo and friends hold up the banner behind us so it is in the shot and show her the photo....i want the banner so she has a printed memory of the occassion. the only reason im not kean on the bridge is to pull it off timing has to be perfect and as we all know timing at the fair caan be difficult. but if anyone has any ideas please feel free to suggest it. i was also thinking about having one of the musical acts sing to her and behind them they can unravel the banner and i can get some of the rose sellers to walk up and deliver numerous roses and of course me follow up afterword  and have her turn around or just pop the question at that point

[crimsonbrewer]

i have change my thoughts again, now i am thinking if i can get one and period banner that can be carried in the parade near the end so as we are watching it bingo and that way i can select the local i want as long as the parade goes through there.......any thoughts

[GryffinSong]

What does she like doing the best? If beer and taverns are her thing, the tavern will be a very fond memory. If parades and outdoors and such are her thing, the parade will be a very fond memory. Ditto with the bridge. Its all about what will make this a thrilling, romantic, memorable event. I don't know the faire site, so can't speak to the specifics of logistics.

[crimsonbrewer]

thanks she is into the whole fair, the bridge will be in the back of my thoughts but im just trying to make it as memorable as possible. in the pub i was thinking about maybe incorporating one of the singing acts but cant go with that until they make up the schedule. im still waiting on them to get back to me sincve they are on part time and some changes are being done. i am going to start calling a bit more to try to speak to someone but that is hit or miss

[crimsonbrewer]

ok fyi it will be happening on opening day at the faire, i will be doing it during the washing well wenches first performance of the day on 8/3 come and fill the seats and pass the word

[EltonJ]

Congratulations!  Everyone should be married!

I hope it goes well for you.  And by that, I mean it goes as fluidly as you planned it.  Oh, and be yourself.  She wants you. 

[Prima]

I'm a bit late to this conversation, but congrats! My only advice is to be in the moment  (and have someone recording it!).

Bogie proposing at BARF   6 Years later and I'm still the happiest girl in the world! 

[crimsonbrewer]

the day is all set, i will be proposing open day at the washing well wenches first show of the day so come on out and watch my short proposal

[crimsonbrewer]

i want to thank you all for all your input. it all went extremly well and you can see for your self


http://youtu.be/8oNMbxuPnQk

[Prima]

WELL DONE!  It brought tears to my eyes, I'm sure she will remember it forever!!!  Congratulations and may two be forever happy together.

[Jade]

 That was great! If  that was me,  I'd love it!