Some of you know that this past year with my Gmom has been a roller coaster to say the least bit. My Cousin and I were her primary care givers and fought her dr, her, and other family members to try and get her the care she needed. We were pushing for tests to be done because she was in way too much pain to just be caused by a rash that she had. After her changing POA, kicking me out, and finding herself alone in the house in the same amount of pain, she finally asked to be taken back to the hospital. Turns out my Cousin and I were right all along. Her cancer came back. It's along her back pushing against her spine. She's refusing to eat or take any medicine. After years of trying to do the best we all could, her stubbornness has turned out to be the worst enemy that she thought I was. May the rest of her days be as peaceful as possible and may she go as gently as she is capable of.
Requests for the best outcome of all involved have been sent to the PTB from the Shadow's Hold. You've done all you could, love, and more than many would have. Whether she ever acknowledges it or not, you have been a blessing to her. Those blessings will be returned to you many times over.
I think you have it exactly right, FF. She'll go down in a fit of angry stubbornness because it's the only way she knows how to behave. I wish her whatever comfort she is able to glean from modern medicine and that the two of you are able to find a friendly moment or two before she goes. But if not, as you say, she is dealing with all as she chooses and there's simply no helping it. I wish you peace as she passes and during the aftermath. {{{HUGS}}}
Thank you both! *HUGS*
The last news I had was Wednesday and they were going to explain treatments and such to her then. The one semi-funny and totally Karmic thing that's happened is that Gmom in one of her more feisty mentally not all together there moments, whacked tim upside the head. Even though it's sad, it's hilarious at the same time because she did what so many of us have wanted to do through this whole thing. And it finally told him we hadn't been lying to him about her behavior, he got to see it first hand (pun unintentional). So yup, she's going down fighting alright. I'd really expect nothing less from her.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Sending prayers, positive energies, good thoughts and healing vibes to you and your Gmom Fairyfly!
Quote from: Fairyfly on June 01, 2008, 07:25:09 PM
Thank you both! *HUGS*
The last news I had was Wednesday and they were going to explain treatments and such to her then. The one semi-funny and totally Karmic thing that's happened is that Gmom in one of her more feisty mentally not all together there moments, whacked tim upside the head. Even though it's sad, it's hilarious at the same time because she did what so many of us have wanted to do through this whole thing. And it finally told him we hadn't been lying to him about her behavior, he got to see it first hand (pun unintentional). So yup, she's going down fighting alright. I'd really expect nothing less from her.
That is hilarious! :D And I think actually one of her more coherent moments ;D
Prayers going up.
Blessings to you as well
Just thought I'd toss in an update for you. Gmom as far as I've heard is still kicking... sometimes literally. lol Decisions should be made soon as to if she's going to be going back to her house, {which is unlikely} or if she's going to remain in the nursing home she's been recovering at. Tim is still in denial. Though that's no big surprise. For the moment, all is peaceful. Thanks for all the well wishes and prayers!
*HUGS*
FF
Wow, she has incredible stamina. Thanks for the update. I hope she does stay at the nursing home. I expect she'll find more peace there.
Quote from: Tremayne on July 08, 2008, 11:22:57 AM
Wow, she has incredible stamina. Thanks for the update. I hope she does stay at the nursing home. I expect she'll find more peace there.
She might, but the nurses won't. tee hee And tim's staying away from her.
Just got an update:
Gmom is going to be released from the nursing home. Tim plans on moving her in with him, his wife, and their baby. I think Karma is about to have a field day. He has been informed that she is being treated for Dementia and Alzheimer's, along with her Cancer. Which is why the nursing home refuses to allow her to be returned to her own home by herself. Which means that he can no longer attempt to say she's fine and of sound mind. They have to attend a meeting with the doctors at the nursing home at the end of this week so that they can be told what they have to do to be able to take her out of professional care. I have to say I'm glad someone is attempting to watch out for her. I'll let you know how things go.
Lighting a candle of strength and guidance for your family. She sounds like a determined woman. Peace and blessings
It is with a very sad heart that I'm updating this topic tonight. My Gmom finally passed tonight just 10 days shy of her 94th Birthday. She was in a hospice care center recovering from having a stroke and a bad reaction to some pain medicine. At least she was in a place where she was getting decent care and not at tim's house dealing with the care, or lack there of, that he'd been giving her.
Looks like I made sure I'd keep a promise I made to myself a few years ago, that I wouldn't go to her funeral. Since I just moved to FL, it's impossible for me to get back up there even if I really wanted that. I'd rather not be around for the aftermath that's about to take place, including all the court cases that are about to happen.
Thank you to everyone who has been going through all this with me for the last few years! I can't express just how much it has meant to me to have people who have understood what it's been like.
*HUGS*!!!!
A big hug to you hon ! Lighting a candle for you to give you strength thru all of this.
Many hugs and prayers for you Fairyfly. I know the loss is hard for you but I hope knowing that she is now free of pain and illness will help ease your pain. She will always be with you.
Big HUGS
Many hugs Fairyfly. You and your grandmother are in my prayers.
So sorry to hear of her passing,but now the pain is gone.Prayers and hugs to you. :(
I hope she has now found the peace that eluded her in this life. And here's hoping you inherited those longevity genes! :) Though I'm sure you have some conflicting feelings, I am also glad you're in a situation that completely prevents you from becoming entangled in the aftermath of her passing. In fact, her timing is, shall we say, very interesting.
FairyFly I know I'm late in finding this thread but I am so sorry to hear about your Gmom's passing. You and your family will be in thoughts and prayers during this very sad time in your lives. :'(
Hugs to you and the family both! :)
I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. I hope you find comfort and strength to see you through.