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Title: Stage 4
Post by: Dracconia on May 03, 2010, 09:29:20 PM
My grandfather has stage 4 brain, bone and lung cancer....how two hospitals running test after test missed this...and how one could see it in the emergency room....kills me. I am empty. I am taking the rest of the year off from school. They say with treatment he has a 50/50 chance to last a year. My mom will be taking care of him. I will taking care of her and my sister...I think in time the numb will go away...and maybe the scared will leave too....but for now...I am numb and scared....and in great need of prayer....
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Post by: auntiegiggles on May 03, 2010, 09:31:39 PM
Dracconia I am so sorry!  You and your family are in my prayers. 
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Post by: Ferret on May 03, 2010, 09:42:52 PM
I am sorry. You family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Ferret
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Post by: photomike on May 04, 2010, 12:58:24 AM
Best wishes & healing prayers to you & the family.
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Post by: Baroness de Vale on May 04, 2010, 06:42:49 AM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!
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Post by: Hausfrau Monica on May 04, 2010, 07:20:05 AM
I am sorry to have to say that I know exactly what you are going through.  My Dad has just finished round one of chemo for lung (and suspected brain) cancer as well.  I understand the numb feeling...it will pass because you have to be as positive as possible and move forward.  This is like having to learn a whole new language and way of living but...for the love of your grandfather...you will do so and more.  I consider myself blessed that I have reached 45 before I have had to be touched so closely by cancer.

Yes, dealing with the doctors can be extremely confusing and at times contradictory.  I hope that there is care and assistance in place for your grandfather like there is here in Canada for my Dad.  I have been extremely touched by the genuine care and concern that has been shown to us by the doctors and especially the nurses.

My prayers are with you and your family.  Please be in touch if you need to talk. 

Monica
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Post by: Rani Zemirah on May 04, 2010, 08:06:54 AM
Sending prayers for strength and comfort to you and yours...
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Post by: LadyFae on May 04, 2010, 01:12:47 PM
Oh hon!  ((((HUGE HUGS)))) to you and yours!  You are in my thoughts and prayers!  Sending warm healing vibes your grandfather's way.
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Post by: Lady Amy of York on May 04, 2010, 01:51:16 PM
OH  Drac  !
  < Runs  and  wraps  arms  around   Drac >.

Go ahead  and  cry all you want girl.  Most of us on here  have had a family member  or  a friend   who   has battled  cancer. We  know  what you are  going  thru.   It is  alright  to be scared , or  angry, or  feel  hurt.   Remember girl  that we are here  for  you, and  any time  you   need us, you just give  a holler,  cause  now  is  when  you need  your  friends the  most.

Love  you  sis !

Lighting  a candle  for  you , your grandpa, and  your  family.
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Post by: Pat McGroin on May 04, 2010, 02:11:52 PM
Dracconia I am sooooooooo sorry!  You and your family will be in my prayers. 
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Post by: angusmacinnes on May 04, 2010, 02:29:10 PM
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers lass.  Hope your doing well.
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Post by: Lady Kett on May 04, 2010, 05:46:05 PM
Keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers Drac.
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Post by: lordwriothsley on May 05, 2010, 07:46:25 PM
Drac,
Ask no more as prayers and good thoughts are being sent yours and your familys way my lady.
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Post by: Dracconia on May 07, 2010, 12:23:54 PM
We have moved the dates to 6 months to a year. The brain tumor is like a glove around the stem of his brain. He is so scared...it's really hard to see someone who I used to liken to an Italian mob boss (I've never seen him in jeans...and he always wore his hair slicked back...when I was little we watched an Italian mob movie...and OH! there he was lol) now crippled, scared and so near death....he always said he wanted to go with his boots on...and now he can't even put em on...

*hugs*

thank you all for being a place for me to vent....this is more helpful then you know.
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Post by: Lady Guinevere on May 07, 2010, 12:48:03 PM
I'm so sorry for what you're going through.  You and yours will be in my prayers.
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Post by: irish on May 07, 2010, 03:35:28 PM
Awwwwww..you have a hug from me! Keep strong. I know it is easier said then done.
You and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
irish
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Post by: lordwriothsley on May 09, 2010, 06:50:09 AM
Drac I am so sorry to hear this news, for this is truly the last thing you need right now hon. You and your entire family continue to be in my thoughts and prayers at this time lass.
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Post by: renren on May 09, 2010, 01:58:21 PM
So sorry to hear, you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, Drac!
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Post by: Dracconia on May 10, 2010, 08:28:04 AM
Your prayers, and the prayers of others are a source of great comfort. Thank you all. I got to spend the weekend with him...and it was a blessing.
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Post by: crazyrennie on May 10, 2010, 01:46:28 PM
Drac,
We have never met but rest assured I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts!
Crazyrennie
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Post by: Dracconia on May 24, 2010, 04:37:51 PM
It went from six months to a year....to one to two months....and now it's a matter of days......

Everytime he sees the Dr they cut his time.....and I am so selfish that I want him to hang out...I want him to fight...I want him to stay here....but he hurts so much and there isn't any point....I have to let him go...and I thought I had more time...to get use to the idea....but I guess we never get used to the idea...no matter what.....
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Post by: angusmacinnes on May 24, 2010, 04:57:41 PM
This will be of no comfort to you but no we never get used to the idea.

My prayers are with you and your family lass.
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Post by: Lady Amy of York on May 24, 2010, 07:15:03 PM
hugs to my little  ren sister.  You and  your family are in my prayers. if  you need to talk, anytime, i'm  there  for  you  .  Love  you sis. Hang in there.
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Post by: irish on May 24, 2010, 09:02:05 PM
My prayers are with you and your Grandfather.
I am glad you have been able to spend time with him. It is very comforting to him and to you. Share these moments with strong faith and a smile. It is not an easy thing to say 'goodbye', but you know he will always be with you, in your heart and memories.
irish
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Post by: Rani Zemirah on May 24, 2010, 09:11:46 PM
I'm so sorry, dear.  If you need to talk I'm here for you, anytime. 
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Post by: lordwriothsley on May 26, 2010, 05:25:26 AM
Drac I am so very sorry that you are having to go through this right now. As someone who has lost both of my grandparents (both on my moms side of the family) I do know how hard it is to say goodbye and let go but always know that your grandfather will be with you in heart and in spirit always. Please know that if you ever need anyone to talk to about anything that I am here for you any time you need me.

Hugs and Love to you as always my dear.
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Post by: Dracconia on May 28, 2010, 12:07:41 AM
Thank you all for the love and support. My grandfather passed this morning. The viewing and funeral are this weekend. I can't express my gratitude for the support these last few weeks.

Drac
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Post by: Rani Zemirah on May 28, 2010, 12:37:21 AM
My deepest and most sincere condolences, Drac.  I will pray that you and your loved ones find peace and comfort in shared memories, and that those fond recollections will soon bring more smiles than tears.  I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by: lordwriothsley on May 28, 2010, 06:58:26 AM
I am so sorry for your loss Drac. Please know that you and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers during this time of sadness for you all.
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Post by: angusmacinnes on May 28, 2010, 08:01:57 AM
Sorry for your loss, lass.  You and your family will be at the center of my prayers this day.  May God hold you close.
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Post by: Capt. Morgan on May 28, 2010, 08:13:26 AM
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.

~ Mary Elizabeth Frye

((HUGS)) and thoughts of healing prayers to you and your family
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Post by: Lady Kett on May 28, 2010, 06:26:43 PM
Many hugs and much love your way, Drac.
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Post by: irish on May 28, 2010, 07:27:48 PM
{{{Drac}}}
You are in my prayers and thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss and hope you know, he will always be with you.
irish
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Post by: Lady Lil on May 28, 2010, 10:49:35 PM
We have never met, but I pray that peace may heal your heart and the hearts of your loved one, to know that your grandfather may be gone but never forgotten.
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Post by: Lady Amy of York on May 29, 2010, 01:07:40 AM
Drac, i wish i could be there with you to give you a hug  and  to lend a  shoulder to cry on. Know that i am here if you need to talk. Hugs and love to you, and prayers  for  you and your family. I am so sorry for  your loss.
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Post by: Merlin the Elder on May 30, 2010, 06:58:25 PM
Take solace in the knowledge that he is at peace and out of pain. It is indeed difficult at first, but my own father's death 3 years ago was met with the fact that he did not have to suffer for a long time.  My condolences and thoughts are with you.