Okay, since we were all discussing raising our children, I thought we should have a specific thread for just that topic rather than taking up space in the VENT thread. So, here is a thread to discuss parenting ideas and the like.
At age 13 throw them out of the house , while they still know everything there is to know.
Quote from: BLAKDUKE on August 28, 2008, 01:49:41 PM
At age 13 throw them out of the house , while they still know everything there is to know.
Naw.. I love having my 13 year old in the house. That way I can make her life a living hell for the next 5 years. The 14 year old on the other hand... well, I may kick him out by his 15th but we shall see.
My friend:
TRUST ME when I tell you that for the next 5 years YOUR life is going to be Hell. You will actually consider murder. the upside is you can plead it down to involuntary (wo)manslaughter, for which you will 15 years. You will be out in 7 and think about all of that peace and quiet you will enjoy. Of course with limited freedom, but none of the mental anguish which I can assure you, you will go thru. Girls living between the ages of 13 thru 18 should be illegal. And anyone who says boys are better never had any and/or are mentally deranged from trying to raise them. Boys at age 12 1/2 should be put into a whiskey barrell and fed thru a hole, at age 13 YOU CLOSE THE HOLE. At age 18 1/2 you open the barrell and let them go.
Al
Oy, so that's what I've got in me future?
Mine already have plenty of attitude and stubborn,at 5 and 7!
OMG ... mine are 13 and 10, and one is a girl and the other one is a boy ... I have to say Gabi is an expert in the art of the skulking and pouting. And Andrea manages to manipulate her father very well. Is not working with me ... hey I wrote the book on all the tricks she's trying with me right now. ;D
Makes me glad I have boys... twin boys at that OYE glad they don't drive MY car and just to think they live in Idaho and in Idaho 14 is when they get a day time licence
M'Lady
You may have written the book on what she is doing NOW, but that issue went obsolete and out of print 2 days after you wrote it. Wait, she will be trying new stuff pretty soon. I have to admit to being somewhat nieave. If it was not for my wife I don't know what I would have done. Like the time when we had forbidden them to smoke, and my step-son comes down and asks for $1.34 for school lunch that day. I did not see the lunch bag in his hand as he had it in the hand that was turned away from me. As I reached into my pocket TO GIVE HIM THE MONEY, my wife asked "since when did school lunch cost the same as a pack of cigarettes', and if I gave him the money for the supposed school lunch what was he going to do with the bag lunch she just gave him. CONTRARY TO POPULAR OPINION IT DOES NOT GET BETTER IT ONLY GETS WORSE. I love it now though because she is 6 states away and going thru the tortures of the damned with my grand-daughter.
Been there, done that, don't want the t-shirt for it.
Just remember that parents start getting dumb at about the age of 12. (child's age) They proceed to get dumber and dumber until the age of 19, at which point they are unable to feed themselves or be seen in public. At the age of 20 they start getting smarter and by 27 we are downright brilliant. Age variations of up to 2 years have been observed.
ohhhhhhh Blakduke...you make me giggle.
'tis all true what the wise man said.
'member that curse that your parents put onto you about having children JUST LIKE YOU?...yeah well it worked didn't it?
I've prayed to all that is decent to end that curse alas to no avail.
My spawn are now aged 19, 17 and 13. With the last of that being our only daughter which we KNOW will bring new horrors not yet experienced from our young men.
But I wouldn't trade the experiences for anything...well there's a few things I could have done without....but overall it didn't kill me (yet) and I haven't killed them (again... yet) and I'm sure there will always be some bright and novel torture that my children will bestow upon me in the future.
Kids...gotta love 'em.
;)
My son's only 2 and half so I still have ALL of it to look forward to. He's already picking up a few tricks, but, so far, I've been dealing with it pretty well. My one hope is that he's nothing like me and that I can raise him with half the common sense my parents gave me (admittedly, I don't use it all that often, but that's not their fault!) ::)
I stopped liking my sons at about age 14. I started liking them again around age 22.
Although the whole time, I really, really always loved them.
Now, they've both grown up to be fine young men, at ages 24 and 27.
However, the gray hairs they gave me never went away.
lol Blakduke
Two of mine are past the 13-mark, the other two are closing in on it. But, in our family at least, 13 seems a fairly safe age, so far. My oldest, at 13, was still a well-behaved little boy whose worst crime was only his complete inability to organize his school notes (or anything else, for that matter). It was when he hit 16 1/2 that we went through the "Year of Hell". But now that he's closer to 18, he's getting back to being the kid we knew before.
My second is 15, but he's so laid-back and easy-going that he might just bypass those difficult years altogether. *knock on wood*
My 3rd son is the one approaching his 13th. I'm already cringing with this one. He's always been something of a temperamental little fireplug. If anyone's going to start it all early, he'll be the one.
My one daughter is still only 11 and, so far, seems to have a good head on her shoulders...at least when it comes to dressing. ::) Climbing trees might be a different matter...
The one thing that I am positively sure of....my wrinkles and grey hairs are the marks of the great joys and sorrows of raising my children.
I'm thinking that those "characteristics" become charming when my grandchildren start to arrive?
:D
The one piece of advice I would give to all parents is to remember that the disappointments and the pride you experience from your children are reflective of your failure and your success as a parent. It's an accountability thing.
:)
I've got a 13 yr old girl, she's a good girl, smart, funny, sweet, and cute.
I'm going to be in trouble with her when she starts dating. I'm ready for whatever she brings. Mom has been around the block a couple of times, seems nothing surprises us anymore, doesn't it?
We have 3 kids: 2 boys (16 and 14) and a daughter (10).
Years ago an ECFE (Early Childhood Family Ed) teacher passed along a few tidbits of wisdom:
1) The only difference between a teenager and a toddler is that you can pick a toddler up.
2) Grounding a teen is like chaining yourself to a bear to punish the bear.
I thought they were really funny, but now tend to agree...so we opt for banishment (to one of the grandparents who need some kind of hard labor completed....(they get to see the grandparents for more fun things too)) and it seems to be quite effective.
They are great kids, I love them all dearly, but...wow...somedays...
Quote from: luciana on August 28, 2008, 03:07:34 PM
OMG ... mine are 13 and 10, and one is a girl and the other one is a boy ... I have to say Gabi is an expert in the art of the skulking and pouting. And Andrea manages to manipulate her father very well. Is not working with me ... hey I wrote the book on all the tricks she's trying with me right now. ;D
oh man Lucina, sis, could i make a few comments ! LOL ! Yea, that is why mom and dad put you in the convent ! ;D ;D :P :P
Just kidding !
My son is only four so, so far so good, but i saw what my older sisters went thru with my nieces and nephews when they were teenagers. Now they are all young adults, and they call up my sisters and say to them " You know mom, you were right all along." !
My parents had four girls. My dad said that is why we always had male dogs in the house, so that he did not feel too outvoted, although he always was ! LOL !
My mom always warned me and my sisters and would say " What goes around, comes around." in other words how you behaved as achild will come back to haunt you as a parent. Phew, i guess i will have no problems ! ;D ;D ::) ::) ;)
Quote from: Julianne on August 28, 2008, 06:57:30 PM
The one piece of advice I would give to all parents is to remember that the disappointments and the pride you experience from your children are reflective of your failure and your success as a parent. It's an accountability thing.
:)
EXACTLY!
And...you are not only raising your children, but your grandchildren, as well! Think about it...everything you instill in your own kids now determines (to a great extent) how your grandchildren will be raised.
One of the biggest problems we face in society today is not that children are getting worse, but that parenting skills are often quite lacking! (I'm referring here to those children - and we've all seen them - who are absolute terrors, and the parents just continue to give them whatever they want in order to shut them up.)
Well...I have to say that I was a pretty good kid and teenager. My mom and I had differences, but they weren't insurmountable. So far, my son is a pretty good one, even though he doesn't want to do Faire right now. I won't push it. There are bigger battles that are more worth fighting if it comes to that. I anticipate that we might not see eye to eye on everything, but that's OK. It's just because I've got life experience that he doesn't. I can't necessarily impart my experience on his inexperience. I just hope he'll still choose to come to me when he needs to.
"Mothers of teenagers know why animals eat their young."
'Raising children is like being pecked to death by chickens'.
someday God willing, we will all be gathered around a campfire together and I will regale, astound, and terrify you all with stories garaunteed to curl your hair...................... ALL OF THEM. ;D
I've been very lucky with my daughter until now. She's reached 19 and like alot of young adults today doesn't want to start accepting real responsibility for her life. It's too hard, too scary, and cost too much! I'm trying to help her, but mom knows nothing and is being unfair and unreasonable. I've always told her up front how everything is, but she doesn't think mom means it. It's simple go to college, pay rent or move....
Quote from: Lady Amy of York on August 28, 2008, 07:42:02 PM
My mom always warned me and my sisters and would say " What goes around, comes around." in other words how you behaved as achild will come back to haunt you as a parent. Phew, i guess i will have no problems ! ;D ;D ::) ::) ;)
* coughing * Yea ... right! * looking forward at the next 10 years *
My wee-one is still too tiny to share in all his treachery. Right now I just have to worry about his naps, eating, diaper changing, cuddle time (ah, cuddle time.... I know it will end all too soon, so I'm fully enjoying my cuddle bug) and other wee-people fun.
One day, I'm sure I'll be pulling my hair out, though.