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Title: My mom is in the hospital FINAL UPDATE
Post by: Trillium on September 02, 2008, 07:57:35 AM
I got a phone call yesterday that my mom is in critical care with a subdural hematoma.  They cannot do surgery due to her condition and we are now just waiting to see what happens.  As some of you know, my mom is an alcoholic and has csirrosis.  I've been waiting for this phone call for years but it's still hard to hear.   :-\
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Post by: RenRobin on September 02, 2008, 07:59:50 AM
Trill,
I am keeping your mom and you and our family in my prayers.
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Post by: Lady Nicolette on September 02, 2008, 08:18:58 AM
No matter what, it's never easy when something catastrophic hits a loved one.  Even when they may have brought some of it on themselves.  My sister died of liver disease from lifelong (pretty much)heroin addiction a few years ago, so I really understand what you may be feeling, Trill.  Remember to take good care of yourself during this terribly difficult time, sweetie.
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Post by: knarlyknot on September 02, 2008, 11:11:03 AM
Oh Trill, our thoughts are with you.  Remember to take care of yourself.
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Post by: lady serena on September 02, 2008, 01:47:32 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom.
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Post by: Muffin on September 02, 2008, 01:49:56 PM
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers Trill...

*hugs*
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Post by: Celestial Melody on September 02, 2008, 02:03:50 PM
*hugs*  My thoughts are with you and your family.
Title: Re: My mom is in the hospital
Post by: Trillium on September 03, 2008, 07:40:54 AM
Thank you all for your kind words!!  I spoke to my sister last night and she said my mom had a hemorratic stroke which caused the bleeding in the brain.  They don't know if her other problems will be intensified by the hemorrage, but if that happens it's very likely that her liver will fail since it's already in a very fragile condition.  At this point my mom is heavily sedated but responds to stimulation (pain, tickling, etc).  She still has full motor function but we don't know what her mental function is yet.  They cannot do surgery to relieve the pressure on her brain because she wouldn't make it through, so all we can do is wait and see if her body will reabsorb the blood.
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Post by: CatAshtrophy on September 07, 2008, 08:20:44 AM
I'm sorry. That sounds scary, and how awful to have to wait and see like that. I hope that her body will be able to take care of itself.
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Post by: Joyce "Delfinia DuSwallow" Howard on September 07, 2008, 07:32:56 PM
I'm so sorry Trillium to hear this.I lost my mom in june, it was very hard and still is. I lost my dad to alcohol , that was a tough too. You know its gonna happen but it doesn't make it any easier. Big hugs to you and I'll keep you and your mom in my prayers.
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Post by: Anna Iram on September 07, 2008, 08:02:38 PM
Trill, I'm so sorry. I just saw this. (Hugs) I hope your mothers condition is improving. I'm sending a prayer.
Title: Re: My mom is in the hospital
Post by: Trillium on September 08, 2008, 08:33:19 AM
Sadly, things are going downhill.  They did another CT scan and my sister, who is a physician's assistant, said it's the biggest brain bleed she's seen.  My mom is not recovering and the bleeding has gotten worse.  The doctors told my stepdad that if she was going to improve, the would have seen a change in 3-4 days, it's now been a week.  He is now agonizing over the decision to pull the support and see what happens.  They are getting hospice involved and are trying to figure out if they can even give her wish to die at home and not a hospital.  My parents live an hour out of town and she may not even make it home...
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Post by: lordwriothsley on September 08, 2008, 09:31:46 AM
Trillium after reading everything that's been happening to your mom it's just so awful to hear.I know that this had to have been some of the worst news you could have ever heard in your life.Hang in there hunny I will say a prayer for you, your mom and your entire family during this difficult situation.
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Post by: Muffin on September 08, 2008, 09:37:09 AM
Oh Trill I am so sorry for how everything is going.. I will keep praying and keep you all in my thoughts....

*hugs*

~ Amy
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Post by: PurpleDragon on September 08, 2008, 09:39:56 AM
~lighting a candle and sending a silent prayer skyward~
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Post by: Peddlin on September 08, 2008, 09:43:14 AM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.
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Post by: Lady Amy of York on September 08, 2008, 10:03:05 AM
 lighting a candle  for you and  your  mom.
Title: Re: My mom is in the hospital
Post by: Trillium on September 09, 2008, 09:20:34 AM
They found out that my mom won't be able to go home unless she can breathe without assistance for 24 hrs, so most likely she will remain in the hospital.  Support will probably be pulled tomorrow.  After agonizing for days, I've decided to stay here and not fly to WV to be there.  I don't want that to be my last memories of her.  I have enough difficult memories without dealing with seeing her hooked up to machines, unconscious.  She's already gone, so she won't know if I'm there or not.
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Post by: Muffin on September 09, 2008, 09:28:36 AM
I am so sorry.... The right words are always hard to find at times like these.. You are in my thoughts....

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Post by: lordwriothsley on September 09, 2008, 09:29:39 AM
Trill I'm so sorry to hear this.Even though you had bad memories of your mother it's still hard to watch someone you love slip away from you like that.I will continue to say a prayer for you, your mom, and your entire family.Hang in there sweetie.
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Post by: PurpleDragon on September 09, 2008, 09:47:08 AM
Truly I am sorry to hear this news Trill, my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. 
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Post by: RenRobin on September 09, 2008, 12:47:12 PM
(((HUGS)))
Trill...I am so very sorry.  Prayers are still coming your way and to your mom and family.

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Post by: Trillium on September 10, 2008, 08:15:08 AM
After another discussion with the doctors, they were allowed to remove my mom from the support and take her home last night.  Amazingly, she made it home is still hanging in there.  At this point there is no response to stimulation and her breathing is getting more difficult.  We are all shocked she made it through the night.
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Post by: Anna Iram on September 10, 2008, 08:19:43 AM
I'll keep you and your mother in my thoughts today Trill and light a candle.

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Post by: Lady_Glorianna on September 10, 2008, 08:31:23 AM
Trillium

In the midst of all of this it is good to hear that she got her wish to go home that whatever may come will happen there, again as per her wishes. Even if you are not there physically, you are with her in spirit and she knows that. I wish I could write something tht would really give you comfort and peace but I am not in a very good place myself. All I could say is to hang in there...
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Post by: Capt. Bacardi on September 10, 2008, 09:58:57 AM
Trill I just saw this, I am so sorry for you and your family. I know how you feel not wanting to see someone hooked up to machines as a last memory. Sending prayers and strength your way...
Title: Re: My mom is in the hospital FINAL UPDATE
Post by: Trillium on September 10, 2008, 01:09:48 PM
My hubby got the phone call while I was on my way to meet him for lunch...
She passed away peacefully about an hour and a half ago...
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Post by: Lady Nicolette on September 10, 2008, 01:14:45 PM
I'm sorry, Trill. 
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Post by: PurpleDragon on September 10, 2008, 01:18:20 PM
My condolences Trill.
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Post by: lordwriothsley on September 10, 2008, 01:20:39 PM
Trillium I'm so sorry for your loss.You and your family have my condolences. :(  :'(
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Post by: Welsh Wench on September 10, 2008, 01:23:15 PM
Trillium, I am so very sorry. My sympathy to you and your family.
{Hugs}
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Post by: Molden on September 10, 2008, 01:31:10 PM
Trillium, you have my deepest sympathies - my prayers to you and your family in this time. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
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Post by: Scotsman on September 10, 2008, 01:37:50 PM
You and your family are in our prayers ... God Speed.
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Post by: Captain Jack Wolfe on September 10, 2008, 01:39:16 PM
My condolences, Trill.
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Post by: Muffin on September 10, 2008, 01:55:11 PM
I am so sorry Trill.. My heart goes out to you and your family..

*hugs*
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Post by: irish on September 10, 2008, 02:14:47 PM
May you find comfort and peace, during this time. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
irish
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Post by: knarlyknot on September 10, 2008, 02:28:07 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, Trill.
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Post by: Capt. Bacardi on September 10, 2008, 03:45:05 PM
I am so sorry Trill.....
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Post by: Lady Amy of York on September 10, 2008, 03:49:55 PM
I am so sorry !  You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: Lady Renee Buchanan on September 10, 2008, 06:34:34 PM
Our prayers will be with you and your family.  We are sorry for your loss of your mom.

Renee and Steve
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Post by: lady serena on September 10, 2008, 08:57:23 PM
My condolences to you and your family Trillium.
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Post by: Luciana on September 12, 2008, 12:17:56 PM
My condolences Trill to you and to your family. I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a parent was never easy.
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Post by: Peddlin on September 12, 2008, 02:54:21 PM
Know that you are not alone in your sorrow. You have many loved one, who grieve with you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Post by: RenRobin on September 15, 2008, 12:48:11 PM
My deepest sympathy to you dear.  You and your family are in my prayers.