Ron passed today ...
Oh no, I am so sorry for you. hugs and kisses Lady M
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Lady Glorianna, I am so sorry to read of your loss. My heart aches for you, and I am sending prayers for your comfort and the easing of your grief. My thoughts are with you.
I'm so sorry to hear this. Don't forget how much you are loved hun, we are here for you!!! *HUG*
I am so very sorry, Lady Glorianna.
May you find comfort in your friends and family.
HUGS. I am sending prayers to you. HUGS again.
I am so sorry to hear this. We will lift Ron's life up in prayer at our church service tomorrow, and we will pray for God's peace to surround you and uphold you in the coming days.
I'm so sorry to hear this! My heart breaks at the thought of it. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
I am so sorry.
I'm sorry, Lady Glorianna.
Hugs and prayers for you.
Lady Gloria,
My heart goes out to you during this time of loss. Please know, you are surrounded by love and peace this night, from all that love you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
My brother found this quote for you.....
"....and, when he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun...."
Wm. Shakespeare ~Romeo & Juliet~
Bless you!
irish
Im sorry for your loss Lay Glorianna. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Very sorry to hear of Ron's passing today, Lady Glorianna. You have my most heartfelt condolences.
I am so sorry to hear this, Lady Glorianna. Please remember to take care of yourself right now and let others care for you, too.
Lady G,
Words can't express the grief you are feeling right now but know this that Ron is safe and sheltered in the Arms of God now and is suffering no more pain.Just knowing that right there is an awesome feeling so let these words here be words of encouragement for you my dear.I'm so sorry for Ron's passing and I will absolutely keep you in my prayers right now.God Bless and to borrow a phrase from my good friend Scotsman God Speed. :'(
Lady Glorianna,
here I am, I am suppose to be a writer, but I find myself at a loss for words. My heart grieves for you right now . But as others have already said, I hope you can find some comfort, by knowing that Ron is no longer in pain.
Remember you have friends on here that care, and we are all here for you.
I wish i could take you in my arms and hold and comfort you.
I shall pray for you tonight.
Hugs and love .
:'(
My sympathies, Lady Glorianna.
I grieve with you tonight Glorianna. I am so, so sorry.
Do not stand by my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints upon the snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain and
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am that swift uplifting rush,
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand by my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
I'd like the memory of me
to be a happy one.
I'd like to leave an after glow
of smiles when life is done.
I'd like to leave an echo
whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times
and bright and sunny days.
I'd like the tears of those who grieve,
to dry before the sun
of happy memories
that I leave when life is done.
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God has laid you see.
I took His hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work, to play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I found that peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
Oh yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts and peace to thee
God wanted me now; He set me free.
"The Plan of the Master Weaver"
My life is but a weaving
Between the Lord and me,
I may not choose the colors,
He knows what they should be;
For He can view the pattern
Upon the upper side
While I can see it only
On this, the under side.
Sometimes He weaveth sorrow,
Which seemeth strange to me;
But I will trust His judgment,
And work on faithfully;
'Tis He who fills the shuttle,
And He knows what is best,
So I shall weave in earnest,
Leaving to Him the rest.
Not till the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly
Shall God unroll the canvas
And explain the reason why--
The Dark threads are as needed
In the Weaver's skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned.
Lady_Glorianna
I am so very sorry to hear this very sad news. To lose the one you love so deeply is a tragic loss.
My thoughts and heart go out you.
Lady de Laney
My prayers are with you. For Ron, for your loss, and for your strength.
Please call on family and friends and spiritual guidance when needed.
You are loved by many, let them be there for you now, as you have always been there for them.
Let everyone know if you need anything.
Ferret
{{hugs}}
I am very sorry for your loss, sending my warmest, most comforting thoughts to you and your family.
Lady Amy those two poems you shared were well spoken.They actually almost made me cry.Thanks for sharing them.
Fair Winds and Following Seas to a dear friend..
Lady Glorianna....if there is anything you need you know you just have to ask...
My heart grieves for you. I know the pain you are going through, having lost a spouse myself.
I'm so sorry Lady G.Prayers go out for you. :'(
We're so sorry Lady Glorianna.
My deepest sympathies for your loss...my prayers and thoughts are with you.
I'm saddened about Sir Dragon's passing. Prayers and sympathy are sent out to you, Lady G.
M'Lady, I am just in from Revel Grove...shared many memories and toasts for Ron there today...we shall misshim, just as we will always treasure him...
The Spirit of Ren!
((Hugs)) and prayers of strength for you.
Lady Glorianna,
You and your family are in my prayers. I am so very sorry for the loss of Ron. May God's hand guide you and protect you and know He is with you and will give you strenght.
Dear Glorianna,
I am so sorry to read about the loss of Ron, I thought about the two of you yesterday at MDRF. The right words escape me, but I am sorry for your loss
Be thankful for every moment you had, and remember that he has gone to create a place for you, and he will be waiting. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, and if we can do something, know that we are here.
We are all blessed that much more in our lives for having Ron be a part. When my mom passed, the preacher pointed out what was the most important part of a tombstone's inscription.
It's not the name.
It's not the year of passing nor the birth date.
The most important part is the dash between those dates, as it represents every person touched by Ron in his lifetime.
So a toast to Ron's "dash."
Hip Hip Huzzahh,
Hip Hip Huzzahh,
Hip Hip Huzzahh.
You have my deepest sympathies. I know the last months have been difficult. Platitudes don't really help with a wound so deep, but sometimes its hard to find the words for us to let you know that we understand your loss.
My lady and my most profound sympathies He shall be missed................
My most sincerest and deepest of sympathies dear lady. I am glad I had the opportunity to meet you both a few years ago. Yesterday was indeed a solemn day at Revel Grove.
I am so sorry luv. I cannot even hope to imagine that I understand how you are feeling. I have lost many people I loved deeply - but never a husband. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you - I pray that God gives you strength and comfort in the coming days.
If there is anything you need we are here for you - all you need to do is ask and we'll be there.
I have sent you a renmail with my personal contact information.
We just found out yesterday at MDRF. My heart goes out to you but know that Ron is now in a far better place and is finally at peace. Let us know about arrangements if you can.
Lady Glorianna~ my heart aches for you and the pain you are feeling. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. Hugs my friend.
So...THAT must have been what made Faire all the more glorious when I stood...transfixed in the middle and looked up to the blue sky with crimson leaves and ashen bark and breathed deep and took in all that was around me...Twas Him...so near...and He shall never leave You, for I have heard His and Your praise be toasted around the Shire.....There is not end as long as names are spoken, and Life is honored....No end....but Oh, my Lady....what an resounding, Eternal Love to you both and...Our thoughts and prayers are with you....
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
Our hearts are heavy with you ...
GOD WITH ME LYING
God with me lying down,
God with me rising up,
God with me in each ray of light,
Nor I a ray of joy without him,
Nor one ray without him.
Christ with me sleeping,
Christ with me waking,
Christ with me watching,
Every day and night,
Each day and night.
God with me protecting,
The Lord with me directing,
The Spirit with me strengthening,
Forever and forevermore,
Ever and evermore, Amen.
Chief of chiefs, Amen. G DOWN
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences and my prayers. Hugs.
My deepest condolences on this sad news.
I got the news from Norm first thing Sunday morning, just as we were settling in at the White Hart. He asked me to pass it on, something I was really not looking forward to. I decided to tell everybody on my usual rounds of the White Hart and the Dragon as early as possible, so everybody else would have a chance to recover a bit during the revelries of the day. All the faces I told showed the same kicked-in-the-gut expression I had felt when I was told. I was pretty sure there would be a toast at Pub Sing "for absent friends" in his honor.
I avoided Hengrave Hall most of the day, only stopping by near the end of the day to see Norm. I happened to stumble across the formation of the Danse Macabre parade, with everybody dressed in black, skull masks and skeletal gloves. I asked if this was especially for Ron and Joe told me that while no, it was an annual event, this one would be dedicated to Ron. A historically accurate remembrance of death - Ron would've found it quite appropriate.
John started the Pub Sing off by announcing a song for absent friends, and then Skivee came up and sang Auld Lang Syne. Although I hated to be seen getting that teary-eyed right after the first song, I'm glad I didn't have to walk out at the end of Pub Sing in that condition. As it was, I was glad to be where I was, in the middle of the White Hart, surrounded by understanding and supportive friends. Indeed, it was most fitting to hear news of his passing at faire on the day when the ren family is the closest, a day already full of goodbyes and fond memories of what has passed. Knowing Ron, I can almost imagine he planned it that way.
Reading over this, I feel the need to apologize for writing something that sounds like it's so much about me. It's probably a consequence of once again not knowing what to say. It's also the only way I knew to illustrate how much the faire thought of Ron, and how supportive the family of faire is. When I saw Ron in the wheelchair that day, one of the things he said was that he was afraid that Gloria would pull away from faire (and consequently the people at faire). Carolyn was there as well, and replied that she didn't think the people would let that happen (which brings up a rather bizarre image of a bunch of stalkers in 16th century dress). As everyone has said, you have our love, our prayers, our sympathies, and our offers for any kind of help and support you desire. As always let us know how we can help.
Ron's Service will take place this Thursday at 7pm at the Stone Chapel of St Francis De Sales Church, 1450 Abingdon Road Abingdon, Maryland 21009, Please join us if you will
Gloria
I will be there in spirit but not body as I am committed to another event that I simply cannot escape as much as I would prefer to be there with you and everyone else in remembering him. Any other time this week I could and would cancel to be there but not Thursday. :'( My prayers are with you in this time of great sadness.
I understand that it is short notice but the church was comitted otherwise and my father (who will be presiding over this just as he did for our wedding) has to go back to PR on Sunday.
Lady Glorianna,
I will be thinking of you tomorrow hon. If i could be there to hold your hand I would. Know that i will be there with you in spirit. You are not alone. You have alot of friends on here thinking of you and praying for you.
LOVE , and HUGS .
M'Lady,
I shall make my very best effort to be there tomorrow.
Love to you and your family!
Your Amras
Milady - it is with great regret that we won't be able to make it to Ron's service. Please know we are with you in spirit and our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dearest Gloriana I am sorry that I was not able to make it to Ron's service today but know that I just like everyone else was there with you in spirit and in heart.Once again you have have my love,thoughts,prayers,and deepest sympathies for your loss.
Let me just say that the service was terrific! What a great way to honor such a fantastic man. No doubt Ron could feel the love.
A beautiful chapel setting, filled with family and ren family, spiritual and warm, exactly like Ron himself. I miss him, and will think of him and drink to his memory at every opportunity!
Huzzah!!
It was a very touching service and an honor to be among those he called friend.
Holding you in my thoughts Lady....lighter days ahead.
My deepest sympathy for your great loss.
:'( I am sorry to hear about your lose. My heart goes out to you.
My deepest sympaties Lady! You are in our thoughts and prayers!
It has been a very hard week. For the first two days, I felt like doing nothing. On Wednesday, I had to take the death certificate to his employer and just being there made me tear up. A second errand just sent me over the edge for the rest of the day. Yesterday, I had to go to my job for of all things a fire extinguisher training. They did have a Halloween luch and in honor of Ron I wore my renaissance dress. Needless to say everyone was thoroughly impressed (they awarded me the winer of the costume contest-I made $13) and went to even admire my husband even more which was good but as soon as I came home, I crashed. Today, I went to register his will, and as soon as I had to hand out the death certificate and my copy of the cremation bill, I could not stop myself anymore and started to cry. Here in MD, his assests are any property that was solely in his name or shared with someone other than me and any benefit with a beneficiary other than me. They ask for the funeral bill beause that is the first and the one major bill against the estate. In any case, I rgained my composure and went on until a good and a good/bad thing; good that he had a will so I am his sole heir otherwise his undeserving family might have received something and good/bad that he ended up being worth $1665 so he is classified as a small estate and there are no public announcements. It also meant paying the county only $16.65. Bad that he was and is so much more to me. Then I went to the supermarket and found myself remembering all the times and the things I would get for him and you guessed it, I started to cry... :'(
PS note that the commercials are right about social security and you only get $255 for funeral but only if you are the spouse or a child entitled to receive benefits
Oh, Gloria...I can only begin to imagine what you're going through...and yet you found the energy to post. Thank you. I've been wondering how you were doing...it's to be expected, and yet still--it's SO hard to lose a loved one...the tears, they don't bring relief, just more tears. And then there's the numbness, the sense of disbelief, the feeling like they'll come home any minute...and they don't...they can't. Please continue to post, as much as you probably just want to crawl in a hole, and just hide, please don't. Please continue to write, talk, whatever...and as hard as I imagine it must have been to wear the dress he made, it was a WONDERFUL way to commemorate him. I imagine it made him smile. <<HUGS>> to you.
What speaks volumes and makes this ever so hard for me is the deep love and admiration we felt for one another, that to the very end he was trying to protect me and take care of me. The day we got to hospice he made sure everyone knew I have a back injury and that they should look out that I not do anything to hurt myself even more. It seemed that he was waiting to be reassured by everyone that I would be taken care off before he could go. One of his social workers wrote me "Your love for one another could be felt by anyone merely in your presence..."
I know it is just to recent, so I am allowed but its just that I cannot stop myself from breaking down at least three times a day. :'( :'(
I'm truly sorry for your lose but rest sure he is happy ,healthy and at peace in heaven.
I hear you. It's such a rare thing, that which we call "True Love"...how can anyone who's ever loved so deeply not be untouched by the loss of their soulmate? I put myself in your shoes, as I have since you first posted about his diagnosis, and I don't know how I would manage without my sweetheart.
So when you write that you can't stop from breaking down three times a day it makes me think that I don't know anyone (that has ever truly loved) who could fault you for breaking down even if it were three times an HOUR!
If Ron were here to ask, I imagine he'd probably say, "Don't cry" (or would he have said, "No llores"?) because we don't want to think of ourselves as causing pain to those we love. But you know what? Your grief is only matched by the love you had for each other. So go ahead and cry, break down, whatever you have to do. Just keep doing the things you both loved, wear the clothes he made for you, and in his memory, LIVE on.
I never met him in person, only through his posts on this forum, but from what you & others have written about him, I fancy that's what he would have wanted for you: for you to be healed. Of course it hurts right now, the wounds are too fresh. Don't blame yourself for feeling the pain of them, but wear them proudly as the badge of "True Love"...you will never forget him, of course not...but in time, everything is possible if you can first imagine it. So imagine yourself healing--in body, mind and spirit--and in time the tears will lessen, the pain will dull, and life will go on if *you* will it to.
None of us can dictate the end of grief. I imagine you've shed enough tears to fill a pool or two, and yet more will come, they have to. The pain has to find expression...but you don't have to feel it alone. And in that spirit, here's a virtual CRATE of Kleenex--oops! Sorry, I only have "Puffs"--here's a virtual CRATE of "Puffs" tissues for you to use in loving memory of Ron. Please forgive the ones that are missing from the top. I know I've used a few for both of you, as have others here.
<<HUGS>> to you, Gloria. Post back soon.