Please Pray for TigerFairy!

[lordwriothsley]

FairyFly don't let that nurse get to best of you sweets.You are Tiger's mother so therefor it's your word against her's.I'm so sorry that things had to happen to the way they did the other day but I know that you are a very strong person and will continue to do what is right for the little one to make sure that she stays healthy.As far as you being sick I'm sorry to hear about that to.I hope you feel better soon sweetie.

Hugs to you and Tiger both!

[Lady Amy of York]

Things are going as good as I could hope for at the moment. The school nurse and I had another interesting day on the phone yesterday. Although I almost feel sorry for her. With me being sick, my patience level was about null and void. At the end of the day she called me again {3rd time for the day} and wanted to "talk". It's funny how she's the one who keeps interrupting me, and having an attitude with me, and yet she felt the need to ask me if I thought we could work together on this.

Ok, my daughter, she's not the one taking care of her day in and day out. Only for a few hours during school, and that's supposed to be mainly at lunch time. But she keep pulling my daughter out of class and trying to test her, just because she's curious about what her reading might be... One, my daughter doesn't deal with that well and she's there to learn, not fight with the nurse every couple of hours. Two, she should be using the supplies I gave her at lunch and if Tiger doesn't feel well, Not using them any ole time she's simply curious. Unless she'd like to start paying for the extra supplies she's using! The less disruptions Tiger has during her day, the better she does. I just can't seem to get this through the nurses head.

Yesterday, I wanted to throttle her. But, it's present day, not the good ole days. So, no throttling... at least not physically. 

She also sent home another form for me to fill out on Monday. It was the second form I've filled out giving her permission to contact our Dr. Basically, this nurse doesn't want to talk to me, she wants to bug the living daylights out of our Dr. The attitude she gives me is that I'm not good enough to talk to, and being 'just a parent' I really don't know what I'm talking about.

And she wonders why I get fed up with her and lose patience with her.... Ugh

Oh  Fairyfly, I read your post and had to wipe away  a tear or  two.  It reminded  me of  myself  when i was  going to school.   I was born  with a  slight birth defect  that affects  my balance   and  dexterity  to a degree  on my left side. One of the reasons  I took up horsebackriding  to improve  my balance, that plus i was  horse crazy !    LOL !  Anyway,   I had a hard time  doing certain  things in gym class, but my gym  teacher  did not care. He  would  make  me  do them  anyway, and   some of  the kids  would  laugh and  tease me  and i would  come  home  crying, not wanting  to go to school again.
So i  can relate  to what Tigerfairy must feel like, being pulled out of  class  all the  time   by the nurse.It gets  to be  embarassing, and I am sure  kids have  probably   said  something  to her.

  My mother  would  do battle  every year with the  gym teacher. Finally she  got a hold of  this one  doctor.  She  was a woman doctor, and i forget what her exact title  was, but she  worked  for   the school district. She  was  sort of in charge of all the nurses  and  all the health services  etc,  that the school district porvided.   Anyway, my mom talked  to her, and  the   doctor  was very nice, and  i got permanently excused  from gym.

So maybe  there is   someone  in your  school district like  that  who is  in charge of  the nurses and  health services, that you can talk  to.  Because that is  rediculous. I can see  the nedd  to check evryday,  but every few hours, that is getting a bit  too  much.     Then  again,  maybe in this  world  of  lawyers and  lawsuit  crazy  people  today,  they are afraid  that if they  don't test  every few hours  and  something does happen  to her while  she is  in school,  they would  have  a  lawsuit  on their  hands. So i can see their  concern  abit too,   BUT,  for  Tigerfairy's  sake    there has  to be  a compromise  somewhere.
    Give Tigerfairy  a big hug for  me  ! 

You mention her numbers  were very high  the  night before last.   I know  you have  been sick with the  flu. Could  Tigerfairy  be  coming down  with  it  too ?  I ask  this  cause i know  that whenver i get sick  it  sends  my  sugar levels  soaring.         There are    three culprits  especially  with females  that can send  your blood  sugar  levels  soaring..they are colds, flu, and   your  menstrual  cycles  !
    Us  woman  have  it so  lucky  don't we !   

Take  care hon !  A  big  hug  to  you too !

[Rani Zemirah]

I'm so sorry you're still having to deal with this woman! She sounds like she just doesn't listen... and that's never good when it involves your child! I agree with Amy that you should find someone who has a bit of power over this nurse, and leverage it!!! She definitely needs to be following your instructions, and not trying to force you to follow hers... If nothing sles, then call the school board and talk to someone there. They should be able to at lease let you know what you can do to ensure her compliance, even if it means filing a complaint against her!

I know you'll get it worked out, though, because you are determined, and I know you won't let anyone or anything get in the way of your daughters health!

Hope today has been easier, and stays that way! Take care of yourself, also!!!

[Fairyfly]

Thanks everyone! I think after the 'nasty me' she dealt with yesterday, she decided not to tip the apple cart today. I had a job interview and called Her before going in the building. It was Tiger's lunch time and she was taking her time calling me. I think I surprised her. Tee hee That was the only interaction between us today. Tiger did well, and only had one little incident, and that was leaving her classroom to collect her lunch box from the nurse. Unfortunately, she didn't bother to tell the teacher she was leaving...  If that's the only issue from the day, IT WAS A GOOD DAY!

"Compliance" and "Compliant" Are the nurses favorite words to use. Mostly, "non-compliant" and directed towards my kid. Lol I've wanted to throw a dictionary at her a couple times, or at least a thesaurus. There are more words in the English language, pick some new ones. Although I don't blame my brattso for not wanting to work with this woman, but it gets monotonous to hear the same word day in and day out.

It'll get worked out, one way or another. I'll give it a little more time before I step over her head. At least one of us can be respectful. "Lead by example." That's how I was raised. Although... my Grandfather's other motto also got stuck in my DNA, "Don't get mad, get even." I'm sure if she keeps it up, I can find more paper work for her to have to fill out. *smirk* 

[Fairyfly]

Yesterday was just a bad day all the way around. Tiger decided to act up and play sick at school, so half an hour after I dropped her off {late because she was was messing around instead of getting ready} I got a call to come pick her up. She wasn't any where near as sick as she was making them believe. She simply wanted to come home and play with the kittens and watch movies. I had an interview to go to, which I didn't make.

I'm really at a loss as of what to do with her. She's been misbehaving, not listening, and not following directions both at home and at school. Nothing I've tried has had a single bit of impact on her. My meeting with her teacher and the Principal was rescheduled for today. I'm going to ask them if the school district has a councilor. I'm not sure if talking to someone else will help her, or if they can do tests with her to find out if it's possibly ADD, or what might be up. I've had to constantly be on her to get her to do the things she needs to do. In every way, from doing her homework, to eating, taking care of her diabetes, taking a bath... you name it, and I've had to yell at her about it. I try talking to her first, but I always end up having to scream to get her attention. It's not good for her, and it's really not good for me.

Yesterday I ended up having two panic attacks and just couldn't stop crying. I know her diabetes plays a part in this, but she acted like this before she was diagnosed. It's just getting worse. She can be a good girl. I've seen it. So I know she's capable of it. I just don't know how to get her act that way all the time. I can't be getting calls to pick her up from school all the time, and if I have to get a babysitter when I start working again, no one is going to want to deal with a kid that refuses to behave. Her diabetes makes it hard enough to have someone watch her!

I just don't know what to do...

[Rani Zemirah]

Well, as the mother of an almost 8 y/o daughter, I can attest to the fact that most of them start to develop an annoying attitude around 6 and it just skyrockets from there! Everything you just described sounds exactly like my kiddo, down to the calling from school saying she's sick when she's not... I even have to check her teeth to make sure she actually brushed them, instead of just pretending! I just couldn't figure out why they were getting so yellow...?!?

I've found that my daughter will respond to the yelling with sullen pouting, but she responds to being grounded from all her friends and toys much better. Sitting on the side of the bed and doing nothing but chores tends to wake her up to the fact that this kind of behavior doesn't get her anything except boredom and hard work, so every few days I remind her of that. It's all I've been able to figure out, and it seems to be the only thing that's worked for us so far (although nothing is perfect, of course!).

I think a councilor would be a good idea for a while, just to help her in coming to terms with her condition, and the adjustments she has to make to deal with it. It might even help you to find someone to talk to, yourself. Joint sessions for the two of you, and private sessions, also.

I'm sorry things have been so rough for you, sweetheart, and I hope it starts easing up soon. You deserve a break!

HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS

[lordwriothsley]

I second everything Rani just said.

Hugs to you and the little one darling.

[Lady Amy of York]

I also agree with what Rani  has  to say   !

I had  to take  Child  psychology   when  i  was  a teacher.  Here are some suggestions :
One   good idea, might me  to  put a side  one  night a week, or  it  could be on the  weekend,  to  do  something  special  together    , just  you and her.  Make  it  amom  and  daughter  night .   See  if it  would  get  her  to open up  and  talk  to  you  about what is  bothering you.

another ,   is  for  you   and  your  daugher  to both keep a journal.  write   down  any thoughts  or  feelings,  concerns   in it that you have  towards  her,    she  should  do  the  same  thing about  you  and  about school  and  her  friends.  Then  you sit  down  and  exchange  the  journals.   it is  agood  way  to see what is  really  on  someone's  mind.   sometimes  it is  easier  to express   your  feelings  in  writing then  to actually  speak  them  to someone  !

[Fairyfly]

Thanks guys! The meeting went really well today with her teacher and the Principal. They are enrolling her in a special program that has been set up for children with health and or mental issues. It takes the pressure off Phoeny to do well in a traditional graded system. Plus they are going to try to get a teachers aid in her class to handle more one on one time with her.

While we were discussing things, I mentioned my concern about possible ADD. And explained why I had the concern and what Tiger has been doing even before she was diagnosed with diabetes. The Principal suggested that the councilor, {who she's going to be seeing at least once a week now} test her for ODD {Oppositional defiant disorder}. I'd never even heard of it before, so I came home and looked it up. Tiger has every single symptom... So we'll see what the test shows and decide on where to go from there.

Amy, thanks so much for the suggestions! The journal would be good for me, but we can't even get her to write in her school fun journal... 

[Rani Zemirah]

Those are all great ideas, just be careful about putting a label on your daughter, and get more than just the opinion of a school councilor before making any sort of decision about what to do!!! Most kids display those "symptoms", and every kid in the country could be diagnosed with a classic condition if it was left up to people who deal with kids on a daily basis! The school system is set up to identify and remove what they see as "problem kids" from the mainstream, and they get lots of funding for every one they single out and separate into their "special programs"... so they're constantly on the lookout for any of the markers!

Of course, I'm not saying she's not experiencing any of these things, I'm just asking you to take her to a professional for an accurate diagnosis before considering any sort of behavior modification meds, or anything else involving drastic measures!!!

I know you'll do what's best for her, though, because I have faith in you!!!

[Fairyfly]

I plan on really looking into it before deciding on anything. The good thing about the Principal at this school is that, like me, he doesn't like just jumping to meds for anything. If they are avoidable, then we'll go that way. I trust him, and he's really great about talking to me about things. So is the teacher. Now if they hire a nurse more like them... I'll be happy as pie! Yeah, good luck on that one. Lol Two out of three ain't bad!

[Luciana]

I agree with you Rani, many times is easier to diagnose a child with something and medicate him instead of trying to find the root of the problem.

[lordwriothsley]

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Now if they hire a nurse more like them... I'll be happy as pie!

Now the question is is what kind of pie will you be happy as.If you ask me pumpkin would be the best.

[Fairyfly]

Eh, I really have to be in the mood for pumpkin, although with my birth date, it would be rather fitting. Lol

I'm going to have to say, banana cream, coconut custard, or cherry!

[Rani Zemirah]

Chocolate silk pie.... mmmmm.....