Choose your friends wisely.

[paul42]

At faire, it is common to see people who have had too much to drink.  Those who do so will suffer the consequences of their actions.  Those people that choose to have them for friends will also suffer similar consequences.  I was stupid and fell into that trap.

No names mentioned, but a few more details on my web site at http://www.pbase.com/paul42/trf_2010

[Laird Fraser of Lovatt]

Ouch!

[Lady Guinevere]

Sorry to hear this, Paul.

[Anna Iram]

I'm sorry that happened to you.  People can really stink. I hope those that hear of this will reserve judgment , realizing how easily words can be twisted around.

[Blue66669]

Paul, I happen to know that you kick much arse. I stand behind you 110%.

[Fenster]

I choose wisely...most of the time.     Good advice for everyone.

[eloquentXI]

At faire, it is common to see people who have had too much to drink.  Those who do so will suffer the consequences of their actions.  Those people that choose to have them for friends will also suffer similar consequences.  I was stupid and fell into that trap.

No names mentioned, but a few more details on my web site at http://www.pbase.com/paul42/trf_2010

This makes me unhappy. I consider you apart of my extended family and both you and your wife are two of the kindest people I have ever met. I suppose she most likely reacted because she was embarrassed by her actions but that does not justify what happened. I'm sorry that things went the way they did.

[*Teach*]

Know that your real friends would never believe the snarkiness that a fake friend will try to say about you.
I was in a similar situation a few years ago when I had to ask someone to leave a party at my house. They decided to go around and try to badmouth myself and the Lovely Lady Trinn. Our real friends new better. The fake friends (as far as I know) don't even go to faire anymore because everyone knew them by the lies they tried to spread.
The good people of this place will not be taken in that easily my friend. We know you for the good person you are.

*Rum toast to Paul and True friends!*

[Melkar]

Thanks for sharing that story and lesson.   

Good idea to do as you did and tell them that it struck you negatively.  Sad that the other person twisted what you were trying to say around to hurt you.   Eloquent's statement is probably on the mark.

Hurtful things happen, but know that you've got a lot of friends and acquaintances that are on your side.   Hopefully it'll just become an "Ouch, that was bad." and many more positive experiences will outweigh the negative.

Point of caution taken though.  Quote that popped into my head was "I get a BAD feeling about this." -- Indiana Jones.  Of course, followed by "Snakes, why'd it have to be snakes!"

[Tipsy Gypsy]

Paul, those of us who know you even a little know you to be a gentleman of the highest caliber. Big hugs, and I hope your holiday was peaceful and blessed.

[LadyStitch]

I recently had to be a rock for someone who was the focus of a bad set of rumor, all because people took something out of context.  Hurt their reputation bad, but it was the people who really knew them that stood by them during the troubling times.  They found out who their real freinds were. 
Those that spread the terrible rumors, and even listened to them are just now coming back with their tails between their legs begging for forgiveness.  The scoff at them now, because they know they are not true friends. 

It is sad that this had to happen to you, but I do hope this incident  helps someone else out there.

[DonaCatalina]

Paul, I am deeply sorry that this happened to you. Most of us know you well enough to realize what a true gentleman you are.
But maybe your warning will save someone else a little heartache.

[Queen Bonnie]

 Ouch! Hugs too. That sounds upsetting. The person in question does not sound very nice at all.
We missed you on the final weekend! You have so many friends at faire!

[Yrose]

Sorry to hear this happen, but we all know better.

[Marcos Charron]

Paul

A wise man once said "in vino veritas".

Marcos